Civility

As COVID-19 pandemic reaches its 2nd anniversary and COVID-19 death toll approaches 900,000 in USA, wish for more civility:

“…the original definition of civility, from the Latin and from the French. Civility: citizens willing to give of themselves for the greater good. For the good of the city.”—Steven Petrow, Three Ways to Practice Civility, Ted Salon (Jan. 2019)  

“If you’ve noticed, much of the emphasis of media conversations on COVID are individualistic: wear a mask, get vaccinated to protect *yourself,* go back to work even w/ symptoms bc *you’re* “fine” (even if you’re not). And while some of these recommendations are good- like getting a vaccine + wearing masks where appropriate, the motivations for them shouldn’t just be selfish. It should also be bc we actually give a damn about other people - our disabled neighbors, our coworkers who haven’t said (and shouldn’t feel obligated to say) they’re immunocompromised, etc….
And if there’s one lesson I think we as a country are repeating until we learn, it’s that community and collective good is our best shot through our greatest challenges …Individualism is inadequate for planetary forces like climate change or global pandemics, no less societal ones like healthcare, economic inequity and racism. But WE, as a collective, can confront them. In a world of MEs, let’s build team WE. 💙”—Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez (Jan. 16, 2022) 

Biden administration made at-home COVID-19 test kits more readily available (free order online)—so more COVID-19 cases underreported to SF Department of Public Health (SF DPH). Given City’s 82% vaccination rate, SF DPH is paying more attention to COVID-19 hospitalizations that represent more serious cases.

Also, Biden administration is making available free N95 masks for pick-up at pharmacies nationwide. SF DPH is reinstating mask mandate exception in public indoor settings where there is 100% vaccination, effective Feb. 1…until the next COVID variant surge?! I plan to keep my mask on, as I continue to work with clients who are immunocompromised.

We must keep a distance

A safe space between us

Days of my poor hygiene are gone

Stay far, whoever you are

If in public, a mask should go on

Before, I’d laugh at this chore

Now let’s all play our part

So my mask will go on – stay on…

Yes, I’ll care about you

I don’t need to know you

To ensure I don’t pass it on

Bizarre – how selfish they are!

It won’t hurt when you’re out to wear one

(And no, your rights aren’t gone)

Once more, it’s far from a chore

Show you care in your heart

Time to start putting a mask on

Not fear – just common sense here

How could helping each other be wrong?

(An act so small – put it on!)

We’ll stay the virus this way

Keep us safe with a mask

When in public, put your mask on!

--Shirley Serban, “My Mask Will Go On – COVID-19 Titanic Parody Song of Celine Dion’s My Heart Will Go On” (July 13, 2020) 

Due to COVID omicron surge, pause on client home visits continued this month, so my work has been virtual and paperless (pleasing my inner treehugger). Amazing how much work is now conducted over the phone, and some clients have gotten comfortable with telehealth.

Recently conducted assessment by phone of prospective client, who incessantly used profanity like George “7 Dirty Words” Carlin while laughing. I have yet to obtain medical records, but wondered if the use of profanity might suggest dementia? 

Civility has declined, especially in relative anonymity of physical distancing, while we have evolved to “trust” larger groups of strangers; was this prospective client using profanity to build trust? 

“People laugh (sometimes nervously) when a norm is violated… Next time you come across somebody new but are not quite sure whether to trust them, try telling a joke…a shared sense of humor indicates shared norms. Shared norms form a solid foundation for trust…use of profanity also can build trust. The use of profanity is a deliberate breaking of a taboo…By deliberately breaking the taboo, the profaner places themselves in a state of vulnerability, thus initiating an act of trust. A positive response to the expression of profanity reciprocates that act of trust.”—Benjamin Ho, “The History of Trust,” Why Trust Matters: An Economist’s Guide to the Ties that Bind Us (2021)

IMHO, there are better ways to build trust than use of jokes and profanity. Blame 45^th President of USA for taking swearing mainstream in public as news media began publishing his profane rants (noise pollution!), and his supporters viewed him as more “authentic.” As Rolling Stone reported, presidential profanity is ol’ news. As examples provided do not appear to advance trust, why not just stick to “expletive deleted” as done in Nixon’s Watergate tapes?

This month filled with events to practice civility = give of ourselves for the greater good, in the form of civic engagement in gerontology. And #ThankU Frontline! 

Happy Anniversary, Master Plan for Aging!

California Department of Aging (CDA) hosted virtual celebration for the 1^st anniversary of the Master Plan for Aging (MPA): lots of back patting for what was accomplished during COVID-19 pandemic environment, silo-busting and “whole-government” approach to aging.

Kim McCoy Wade, Senior Advisor on Aging, Disability and Alzheimer’s for the Office of Governor Gavin Newsom (new role created by MPA), declared “We all go further when we go together” (but maintain physical distance)! 

WHAT GIVES ME HOPE IS WHEN I THINK ABOUT THE PEOPLE OF CALIFORNIA. AND WHAT IS GOING TO START TO HAPPEN THIS YEAR AS PLANS HAVE LED TO POLICY, HAVE LED TO DOLLARS. IF YOU THINK FOR A MOMENT,

-        WE'RE GOING TO SEE ALZHEIMER'S DAY CENTERS OPEN AGAIN IN CALIFORNIA SO PEOPLE WITH DEMENTIA CAN GET CRITICAL DAY ACTIVITY AND CAREGIVERS CAN GET SUPPORT.

-        WE'RE GOING TO SEE HOME-DELIVERED MEALS AND HOME MODIFICATIONS PAID FOR BY HEALTH PLANS SO PEOPLE CAN KEEP LIVING IN THEIR HOMES.

-        WE'RE GOING TO SEE NEW RESIDENTIAL FACILITIES PURCHASED SO PEOPLE CAN HAVE HOUSING AND SERVICES. THIS IS GOING TO HAPPEN IN COMMUNITIES WHERE YOU LIVE AND WORK. 

-        GOING TO HAVE SENIOR CENTERS REOPEN.

-        WE'RE GOING TO HAVE VOLUNTEERS WALK INTO SCHOOLS AND TUTOR CHILDREN SO WE CAN BE TOGETHER AGAIN SAFELY -- AFTER COVID -- BUILDING BACK BETTER WITH INTERGENERATIONAL CONNECTIONS.

Lourdes Castro-Ramirez, California Secretary of Business, Consumer Services, and Housing Agency, spoke of the sense of stability and belonging in intergenerational households based on her lived experience. She grew up in a two-bedroom house with her immigrant parents, nine siblings, aunt and uncle with their children; plus two other families lived in a “tiny house in the back, along with the converted garage.”

JUST AS THIS MASTER PLAN WAS DONE IN A COLLABORATIVE WAY AND ALSO WITH SIGNIFICANT ENGAGEMENT FROM STAKEHOLDERS, OUR AGENCY WILL CONTINUE TO ENSURE WORK IS ROOTED IN REAL LIFE STORIES AND EXPERIENCES. AND ALSO, UNDERSTANDING WHO WE'RE SERVING…ELDERS AND OUR AGING POPULATION.

CDA Director Susan DeMarois invited us to check out MPA First Annual Progress Report (2022). 

Christina Mills, Executive Director of California Foundation for Independent Living Centers (CFILC), talked about joint advocacy across aging & disability to MPA because aging is all of us, and disability is a natural part of life for those born into disability, or age into disability. She talked about getting people, like Justice in Aging Executive Director Kevin Prindiville, to embrace and call out disability:

MASTER PLAN FOR AGING IS WHERE WE STARTED AND A STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION...GOING TO THE MASTER PLAN FOR AGING TABLE FOR MONTHS AND HEARING COLLEAGUES UNABLE TO SAY DISABILITY HAS DEFINITELY CHANGED. ALMOST EVERY SINGLE TIME I'M IN A MEETING WITH KEVIN -- I HOPE IT HAPPENS WHEN I'M NOT WITH KEVIN TOO -- HE IS SAYING PEOPLE WHO ARE AGING AND DISABLED PEOPLE FOR THE FIRST TIME…HERE IS THE THING: DISABILITY IS IN EVERY COMMUNITY. AND YOU CAN JOIN THE COMMUNITY AT ANY GIVEN TIME.

Ed Roberts Day

Youth Organizing! Disabled & Proud hosted celebration of Ed Roberts Day with launch of YO! Ed Roberts Oral History Project.

"We make such fundamental errors in taking care of people all the time. Think about your own life…if you had people taking care of you, making all your decisions, what is there to life, really? In almost all of social programs we set up take care of us or put us away in institutions to be cared for. And I think once I began to discover that, how important it is to help yourself and to move on from that and to go beyond what people thought my limits were…

What’s a life living in an institution or nursing home someplace?... Yet, we spend billions and billions of dollars on these… what we have to do is break that money loose from very strong special interests and move it into the community and deal with quality of life  issues. We do not want to be segregated in the traditional sense." –Ed Roberts (1939-1995), “Father of Independent Living Movement,” 60 Minutes (1989) 

Harry Reasoner on why Ed’s “story worth telling” on 60 Minutes: Ed contracted polio at age 14 in 1953 (two years before Jonas Salk’s unpatented vaccine ended polio epidemic), paralyzed from the neck down and required an iron lung to breathe; with his mother Zona’s fearless advocacy, Ed insisted on attending schools in-person while fighting for accommodations through his political science PhD at UC Berkeley, as Director of California Department of Vocational Rehabilitation, co-founder of Center for Independent Living (CIL) and World Institute on Disability (WID). 

Joan Leon, self-described as 83-year-old person with invisible disability, CIL Board member and WID co-founder, is helping to make a film about Ed Roberts’ mother Zona, who is 101 years old.  

Tatum Tricarico (disability pride flag in her background) and Evan Milburn led Oral History Project on Ed Roberts Day last year, collectively spending 40-50 hours in interviews over the past year.

YO! Oral History Project paired 20 youth with 20 older people who knew Ed Roberts. One lesson for youths facing peer pressure: how Ed changed his fear of being different into power, realizing he was a “star” to control social situations. Check out Ed Roberts Oral History Project playlist. 

80 over 80 SF

UCSF geriatrician Dr. Anna Chodos provided update on her 80 over 80 SF project to amplify stories of older adults age 80+ and to end ageism. My question: Were 80over80 SF subjects asked whether they prefer to be called “older” or “senior” among language choices from Reframing Aging SF? Answer: No.

Geriatricians like Dr. Chodos speak out against ageism in healthcare. Yet few social workers call out ageism, which I suspect is due to so few social workers have gerontology competencies that they’re not even aware that they’re ageist/patronizing and working for organizations that perpetuate ageism. Justice, not charity! 

Chat box included Ashton Applewhite’s observation that organizations that serve older adults are often the most ageist of all. Sadly true, IMHO, and perhaps an example of the intersection of ageism + classism: age-segregated spaces providing “supervision” (social control, often subsidized by government) like senior centers and pre-school/K-12 structures that allow capitalism to function so working stiff are not “burdened” with caring for their aging parents and minor children at home. My views have been informed by my work with older adults across the wealth spectrum: high net worth clients afford to age at home with privately hired staff to cater to their needs, so no need to go to age-segregated senior center, adult day health or social center, assisted living, nursing home (see “How the poor get stranded in Bay Area nursing homes”) or other institutional settings.

80over80 SF project began before COVID-19 pandemic, and later included questions about living through this pandemic. (Just 18 months ago, 80over80 SF had 30 profiles.) Look forward to hearing if subjects share their experiences of ageism (as in Irish Examiner’s “Ageing in the Pandemic” articles). Also would be interesting to see reaction of Zeke Emanuel, who said at age 62: “There are not that many people who continue to be active and engaged and actually creative past 75. It's a very small number.” 80 is not a very small number?!

Dr. Chodos plans to complete this 80over80 SF project by May 2022, coinciding with Older Americans Month – publish everything on website, partner with a radio station, make a book for participants, hold events. To date, 69 participants (43 women; 4 LGBTQ; 8 African American, 4 Latinx, 16 Asian), looking for recommendations to profile as 11 more to go (looking for Filipino, greater diversity).

In addition to usual demographics (socially constructed race/ethnicity and SOGI), it would be good to profile folks age 80+ in different living environments. Because SF land has been too precious for prisons, would miss profiles of octogenarian prisoners (like murderers Charles Manson and Phil Spector, fraudster Bernie Madoff) to hear voices of remorse or unrepentant evil?! Age 80 cut-off also might result in marginalizing low-income and unhoused people who have shorter life expectancies. 

Cool to see my recommendations (Legacy Film Fest Director Sheila Malkind and SF Chinatown activist Dorothy Quock) appearing as talking heads in 80over80 SF video clip. Sadly, I nominated several SF beatniks (including one in a nursing home) who died few months later, and don’t know if they were profiled before their untimely deaths.

MLK, Jr. Day/Speaking Truth to Power

MLK, Jr. Day reminded me that we need poor people’s movement! Due to omicron surge, I stayed put watching documentaries for MLK, Jr. holiday curated by The World House Project at Stanford. 

“As an old man who has seen all the corners in this corrupt old world, who wants to change this corrupt old world, I have decided to start with myself… I know as a fact that the courage of this man (MLK, Jr.) has made a better man of me… You are truly a new man in an old world.” – Sidney Poitier (1927-2022), as 40-year “old man” delivering keynote at 1967 Southern Christian Leadership Conference  

In Speaking Truth to Power (2021) documentary of 75-year-old Rep. Barbara Lee, she opens up her personal life and how it shaped policy (“people closest to pain should be closest to power, driving policy”) – describing how she roamed streets to stay away from her batterer and slept in “flea bag hotels” as a domestic violence victim; how she benefited from HUD program that enabled people on public assistance to purchase her own home for $19,475 near Mills College in Oakland, where brought her two sons to classes when she didn’t have child care.

Encouraged by Rep. Lynn Woolsey "the first former welfare mother to serve in Congress" and Progressive Caucus Co-Chair, Barbara went public about being a welfare mother.

Barbara said at Mills, she nearly flunked her only government course due to an assignment to work in 1972 presidential primary campaign when none of the white male candidates (McGovern, Humphrey, Muskie) spoke to her as a young African-American mother on welfare with two kids. When Barbara invited Shirley "Unbought & Unbossed" Chisholm to Mills campus, the first African-American woman elected to Congress announced her historic presidential campaign! Barbara registered to vote for the first time, helped organize the Northern California campaign and passed course with "A" grade, then served as delegate at Democratic National Convention. As Barbara launched her public service career, Shirley became her mentor: "Because of Shirley Chisholm, I am" (wearing her pearls)!   

Back last August as USA withdrew from Afghanistan, I tuned into World Affairs program, Barbara Lee Speaks for Me, about what it was like for her to stand alone in opposition to President George W. Bush 20 years ago when she was the lone dissenting vote on the authorization of war in Afghanistan in 2001. Right to dissent is central to democracy! 

Age 60+ “best years”

“Your best years will be after you’re 60.”—Robert Reich (former U.S. Secretary of Labor, UC Berkeley Professor of Public Policy and The Common Good host), Answer This, Politico

Happy new year brings benevolent ageism! Thanks to AB 695, the eligibility age threshold for Adult Protective Services (APS) was lowered from age 65+ to age 60+ beginning Jan. 1, 2022. 

Ahead of Chinese Lunar New Year, SF Police Department reported 567% increase in reported hate crimes against Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders from 2020 (9 victims) to 2021 (60 victims)! Likely this represents underreporting for cultural/language access reasons. News reports did not disclose age range of victims, but SF Mayor London Breed referred to “seniors in the AAPI community being attacked.”

“When I was growing up in some of the most challenging circumstances in San Francisco it would have broken my heart to have my grandmother be attacked in the way that we see so many of our seniors in the AAPI community being attacked. But that did not happen because as a community, we protected each other.”—London Breed, “Hate crimes against AAPI community jumped more than sixfold, police say,” SF Chronicle (Jan. 25, 2022) 

Advocates helped preserve Cantonese language classes at City College of SF, led by Trustee Alan Wong whose parents are Cantonese-speaking immigrants from Hong Kong: “We need to rescue the Cantonese program to stop Asian hate and make sure the Chinese community has access to bilingual services. We need to have firefighters, police officers and social workers that are bilingual…Language should not be a barrier for victims of crime and immigrants reporting an incident and needing care.” 

Ashby Village hosted 61-year-old Bill McKibben in Engaging Elders in Climate Action. Environmentalist Bill, who co-founded 350.org with his Middlebury College students in 2008, recently founded non-partisan Third Act for “experienced Americans” age 60+ to clean up their legacy in climate change. Desmond Tutu (1931-2021, who had eco-friendly aquamation) regarded climate change as human rights issue like apartheid in 1980s, and used divestment as tool for change. Bill’s Third Act argues that Boomers and Silent Gen, who hold 70% of nation’s wealth, can use their collective power for fossil fuel divestment from biggest banks (Chase, Citi, WF, and BofA) funding climate destruction; sign Banking on our Future pledge! 

National Family Caregivers Month

According to Recognize, Assist, Include, Support, Engage (RAISE) Act Family Caregiving Advisory Council’s Initial Report to Congress (Sep. 2021): 

·       In USA, 1 in 7 people is a caregiver and more than 2/3 of people will need assistance with daily tasks as they age.

·       In USA, more than 53 million family caregivers provide approximately $470 billion in unpaid support annually for their loved ones to be able to live in their communities.

·       Family caregivers often provide support without a formal assessment of their needs or of the person receiving support; learn “on the job,” taking on complex medical, administrative and care coordination activities.

·       Lost income due to family caregiving is estimated at $522 billion each year.

Rosalynn Carter Institute for Caregivers’ Working While Caring: A National Survey of Caregiver Stress in the U.S. Workforce (Sep. 28, 2021) found that 1 in 5 full-time workers care for a family member with a serious illness/disability; nearly 20% of them quit a job to care for a relative, while 44% switched to part-time work. Rosalynn Carter has advocated for establishment of a new Office of Caregiver Health, within the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, intended to improve coordination within the bureaucracy. 

My Administration is committed to strengthening American families and easing the burdens of caregiving.  That is why my American Rescue Plan provided an additional $145 million in funding for the National Family Caregiver Support Program,…also provided States with additional Medicaid funding to strengthen and enhance their home- and community-based services (HCBS) program.  My Administration’s Build Back Better agenda will build on this down payment by continuing to invest in the caregiving infrastructure for HCBS and increasing pay and benefits to address the direct care workforce crisis.  I will also fight to expand paid family and medical leave nationwide.  Each of these elements is critical to better supporting family caregivers.

--Joseph R. Biden, Jr., A Proclamation on National Family Caregivers Month (Oct. 29, 2021) 

It takes a village + infrastructure, like job-protected leave and healthcare coverage, to support family care partners.

·       Effective Jan. 1, 2022, California Family Rights Act (AB 1033) expanded to grant eligible employees up to 12 weeks of job-protected leave to care for parent-in-law with a serious medical condition. 

·       Effective Jan. 1, 2023, Parent Health Care Act (AB 570) will allow adult children to add their parents/step parents (who are not eligible for Medicare) as dependents to their individual health insurance coverage. 

https://twitter.com/CaregiverAction/status/1457888929127014402 

This year’s NFCM theme is #CaregiverAnd, which encourages family caregivers to “celebrate the passions and interests that enrich their lives.” 

During the COVID-19 pandemic lockdowns, many family caregivers were on their own without the usual respite supports from other relatives/neighbors/friends (as people formed their own pods/bubbles) and formal supports like home health/adult day centers/congregate care settings. Compared to non-caregivers during this pandemic, research found that family caregivers experienced higher rates of anxiety, depression and disturbed sleep; and reported less social interaction, more worries about finances and food, even after controlling for income and employment. Caregivers who fared the worst were female, young, lower-income, and providing care for people with cognitive disabilities (dementia) or behavioral/emotional problems. 

According to UCLA study, Who Is Caring for the Caregivers? The Financial, Physical, and Mental Health Costs of Caregiving in California (Nov. 29, 2021): 

·       In 2020, 1 in 4 California caregivers provided 20+ hours of care to a family member/friend in a typical week, yet only 1 in 11 received payment for any of the hours spent providing care

·       Majority of caregivers in California are women (57.7%), middle age or ages 26-64 (67.5%) and provide care to mainly older adults ages 65+(64.7%).

·       Nearly half (44.4%) of California’s estimated 6.7 million adult caregivers reported experiencing some level of financial stress in 2020 due to their role.

·       About 1 in 5 (20.9%) caregivers reported that caring for their relative/friend was somewhat to extremely financially stressful.

·       1 in 7 caregivers (13.5%) reported a physical or mental health problem within the past 12 months due to caregiving.

Aging boomers in later life have fewer family members to rely on for caregiving (due to never married, divorce, no kids, etc.). (China has recognized tradition of family caregivers, and “Confronted By Aging Population China Allows Couples To Have Three Children.”) 

“I’m a single woman, so I say mom has me, but I don’t have a me.”—Lily Liu, who took “gap year” from her job to set-up infrastructure of care for her mom, featured in AARP documentary, Caregiving: The Circle of Love (2016) 

AARP hosted Beyond the Burnout: A Morning Forum for Caregivers. Lily Liu, former AARP archivist/historian, has been caregiver for her 90-year-old mother diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease for past 40 years and more recently dementia; she decided not to bring home care aides during pandemic due to risk of infection. Lily talked about her nuclear family’s immigration from China to USA (her parents came for graduate studies when she was a child), thanks to 1965 Immigration Act. As a 1.5 immigrant family caregiver, Lily was imbued with Chinese cultural norm of filial piety (“even if I didn’t read Confucius, there was an expectation to care for elders in the family”) and challenges like having no extended family members to help out (but “family by choice”—someone acting like “big sister” as “accountability coach” before she reached burnout), linguistic barriers (terms like “MRI, UTI, and ADL are hardly understandable in English” and interpreting in another language), shift in power dynamic when providing care (“almost become a parent of your parent”), exploring trauma for Chinese immigrant parents who lived during 20^th century wars and civil strife, etc. 

(See Mission Local’s “For Mao survivors, the pandemic has been a cakewalk.” In 2015, Administration for Community Living awarded its first grant to develop “person-centered, trauma-informed” care for Holocaust survivors.) 

Patti Davis wrote her handbook + memoir, Floating in the Deep End: How Caregivers Can See Beyond Alzheimer’s (2021), based on her caregiver support group, Beyond Alzheimer’s (started in 2011) and caring for her father Ronald Reagan who died in 2004. After her attempt to license Beyond Alzheimer's into “AA of caregiver support” fell through, she decided to write her book to share lessons, like addressing grief (“you’re well-served to inhabit and surrender to grief early on…grief is not biodegradable, it will wait and come find you…”), looking beyond disease to essence of person (“Alzheimer’s is stripping away of façade… my father was sweet, gentle person so it was easier”), educating about disease and acceptance to take on challenges like taking away car keys (avoid 86-year-old George Weller’s 20-second drive through farmer’s market in Santa Monica killing 10 people, and injuring many others.) She broadly viewed a caregiver as someone who shows up to provide support; her father received homecare from paid caregivers when he was “bedridden” during last three years of his 10-year illness.

“Kupuna edge”

“When you’re a caregiver … you’re the nurse, you’re the physician, you’re the lawyer, you’re the chauffeur, you’re the accountant. You play all of these different roles that most people go to school and get a degree for, and you are expected as the caregiver to become all of that overnight and as the disease progresses.”— Poki‘i Balaz, geriatric NP, “Our Kūpuna, Our Kuleana: Senior Care Crisis in Hawaiʻi,” Hawai’i Business (Feb. 4, 2020) 

Growing up with kupuna (grandparents) in the same household, family caregiving was reciprocal: my grandparents cared for me and my siblings (while my parents worked outside of our home) until we became more independent, and then we reciprocated as my grandparents with dementia became more dependent on us for activities of daily living. This caregiver experience was more like something we grew into as needs arose, rather than “overnight.” And I suppose it helped that my grandparents had more than a single caregiver playing different roles, and benefited from many family caregivers with specialized roles including physician (though trained in OB-GYN; my cousin didn’t become a geriatrician until after grandparents died), lawyer, accountant, and we were all (non-degreed, but licensed) chauffeurs!

Last month, Hawaii Business magazine covered the role of kupuna in caring for grand keiki in a series of articles about Hawaii’s so-called kupuna edge:

·       "Grandparents Help Hawai‘i Parents Get the Job Done: Grandmothers and grandfathers are storytellers, sources of wisdom, keepers of family legacies and teachers. But perhaps their most important role in Hawai‘i is to help working parents raise their keiki.” 

·       "Do’s and Don’ts of Using Grandparents for Child Care: Lessons learned from both grandparents and parents about navigating these relationships.” 

·       "Grandparents Are Great, But They Can’t Solve All of Hawai‘i’s Child Care Needs: Hawai‘i’s high cost of living often drives the need for grandparent-provided child care. But many grandparents can’t provide care because they are still working or live on the Mainland. Here’s what else is needed.” This article noted that grandparents who are the primary caregivers for their grandchildren tend to experience worse physical and mental health than those who provide occasional or no child care at all. 

Kupuna might wish to exchange worse health for a stipend while serving in foster grandparent program and more low wage opportunities await them in proposed Caring Corps for older adults in charge of universal early childhood education?! 

This month, the Advisory Council to Support Grandparents Raising Grandchildren (SGRC) released its Initial Report to Congress. Highlights:

·       In USA, 2.7 million children are being raised in the homes of grandparents.

·       The child welfare system increasingly relies on kin or grandfamilies to provide care for children, yet they are less likely than non-related foster families to receive needed supports and services.

This report also provides recommendations that will inform development of the National Family Caregiving Strategy.

As COVID-19 pandemic seemed to accelerate hospital discharge preference of patients to go home rather than receive rehabilitation care from a skilled nursing facility (SNF), some exciting Home- and Community-Based Services (HCBS) policy proposals: 

·       Choose Home Care Act of 2021 (S.2562/H.R. 5541) would increase access to health services at home by giving eligible Medicare beneficiaries the option to choose home-based extended care as an alternative to SNF care after being discharged from the hospital. 

·       Justice in Aging is advocating for change in federal Medicaid law to apply retroactive coverage of HCBS services after hospital discharge, just as Medicaid allows services to be covered up to 3 months for SNF. 

Advance care planning

Geriatricians are expert at managing syndromes that are associated with age (e.g., dementia)… are good at deprescribing, looking at list of medications and possibility of interactions…eliminating what’s not necessary… really useful if multiple chronic illnesses… key to good care as we get older is constant, ongoing communication with your doctor… about what you want, how aggressive you want, that trade-off between things that might possibly prolong life versus side-effects and quality of life.

--Jay Luxenberg, MD, On Lok Chief Medical Officer, “Do We Need New Doctors As We Age?” Not Born Yesterday podcast (Oct. 15, 2021) 

UCSF geriatrician Dr. Anna Chodos presented on Advance Care Planning (ACP): how to make decisions based on context (emotions, needs, resources), personality, values, and experiences.

ACP includes medical and financial/legal considerations.

Wonder how many people attended this webinar? I asked all 4 questions! Answers:

·       Even if elder orphan is unable to name a surrogate, it is appropriate to document that person’s preferences—even if “terrible system” for people who are not going to have an advocate, POLST may or may not be useful.

·       “Many of us deal with people who are really complex and seem to have a lot of wishes for what life is like now that don’t match up with what are some stated long-term goals like living forever, getting better…it’s a process we continue to revisit…most people do not like thinking about the hard stuff…Most people don’t get the point, they don’t understand what the heck we’re asking them to do…completing advance directive takes at least a half hour, if not an hour.” 

·       “Assuming they have a program where you can live forever,…what most religions promise people. No, I haven’t started referring people to Jehovah’s Witness programs, but I hope that was like a cheeky question…they’re plenty of religions that have very specific requirements for how people get healthcare.” 

According to AARP, Hawaii has 157,000 family caregivers providing $2.1 billion value of u(n)paid care! AARP HI Pre-Crisis Planning for Dementia featured elder law attorney Laurie Adamshick, who shared her family caregiving experience. 

For solo agers (“elder orphan” without family caregiver), she advised hiring a professional fiduciary. 

Chinese American Coalition for Compassionate Care (CACCC) and AACI hosted Chinese American Cultural Challenges at End of Life (EOL) presented by Esther Luo, MD, Kaiser Permanente palliative care specialist. According to Pew Research, Asians are the fastest growing racial/ethnic group in USA, and Chinese are the largest Asian origin group making up 24% of this group.

According to California Health Care Foundation’s Help Wanted: Californians’ Views and Experiences of Serious Illness and End-of-Life Care (2019), majority of Californians at EOL do not want to “burden” family, want to die at home, prefer “natural death” and do not want to suffer pain.  

Compared to whites, Chinese Americans receive more aggressive EOL care including invasive mechanical ventilation when hospitalized and deaths in ICU so fewer die at home.

Few Chinese Americans enroll in hospice due to cultural challenges, including finding providers with cultural sensitivity (honor family-based v. individual decision-making) and language fluency. About 25% of Chinese Americans live in traditional multigenerational household; modern Chinese family structure is more like the family depicted in The Farewell (2019) film: adult children live separately from aging parents, varying acculturation (immigrant with limited English so gaps in communication with USA-born children/grandchildren), working adult children may have limited time for direct care, so more common to hire or place elder in care home.

Traditional filial duties might include nondisclosure to protect psychological well-being of elderly parent; advocate for aggressive treatment to prolong life; pressure to perform duties to avoid disapproval of community (save “face”); provision of food at EOL as cultural obligation to demonstrate love and care. 

“New” approach to filial piety involves ACP with parents initiating discussion and decision-making in context of not being burden to family, and reframing love/care by honoring elders’ wishes. 

Good death is part of 5 blessings, along with love of virtue, longevity, wealth, health. To traditional Chinese, components of good death are defined by one’s accomplishments of familial responsibility; “natural death” in old age; minimal suffering and free from pain; and maintaining good family relationships. 
 
Dr. Luo recommended indirect communication preferred when discussing EOL: use another person’s EOL experience; frame discussion as standard question and  part of routine care; acknowledge cultural taboos and ask for permission (e.g., some may fear invoking “bad luck” if they discuss death, or talking about death might invite death to come sooner); use provider’s own experience as example. 

Last month, I completed mandatory First Aid/CPR/AED training. During COVID-19 pandemic to prevent contamination, rescuers place material over the victim’s mouth and nose. This mannequin did not look like Resusci Anne. 

During COVID-19 pandemic, call 911 and stick to compression-only CPR: check for response, check for breathing (look; careful about exposure if you listen and feel), then start chest compressions 100-120 beats per minute to the rhythm of BeeGees’ Stayin’ Alive! Use AED defibrillator. 

SF DPH COVID-19 data before Thanksgiving/National Day of Mourning gatherings.

Ageism in healthcare

Kaiser Health News’ Navigating Aging columnist Judy Graham moderated stimulating 90-minute panel discussion, Confronting Ageism in Healthcare: A Conversation for Patients, Caregivers and Clinicians. What we can do:

·       Louise Aronson, MD, UCSF geriatrician and author of Elderhood: suggested how to communicate with provider to get your needs met—e.g., “I feel that I’m not getting attention my symptoms warrant (use “I” statement), and I came to you because of your reputation as a good doctor” (compliment!). And she incited us to “make a ton of noise and don’t shut up until things change…that’s how other social change movements succeed, own it, be noisy. Let’s do it!” She added Essential Caregiver Bill (HR 3733) in Zoom chat box. 

·       Michael Wasserman, MD, geriatrician and immediate past president of California Association of Long-Term Care Medicine (CALTCM): encouraged us to “speak truth to power”; called out federal government spending $10 billion a year subsidizing graduate medical education, but failing to train doctors to care for Medicare beneficiaries; the failure to develop policies focused on older adults due to the lack of geriatric expertise among policymakers (notably, failure of Biden administration to appoint gerontology expert to COVID-19 task force)—“honestly, the federal government didn’t listen, and now we have over half a million deaths amongst older adults from COVID and close to 200,000 of them from nursing homes…honestly, the policymakers don’t seem to care.” (The lack of gerontology expertise proved fatal in nursing homes that cut off family visits since March 2020 through Nov. 12, 2021 when finally CMS lifted visitor restrictions in nursing homes.)  

·       Rebecca Elon, MD, geriatrician and family caregiver (see “Aiding Her Dying Husband, a Geriatrician Learns the Emotional and Physical Toll of Caregiving”): recommended starting local and with groups for a louder voice!

·       Javette Orgain, MD, family physician and medical director for Longevity Health Plan of Illinois: called for intergenerational living, closing technology gap, increased funding of home-based care and improving nursing homes!

·       Jesse Mauer, JD, Executive Director of Maine Council on Aging, which promotes Anti-Ageism Pledge: advocated to include age in every DEI (diversity, equity, inclusion) conversation to “help us move collectively together”! (Check out recorded 2021 Wisdom Summit: Embracing a New Normal, Bouncing Forward to Build an Age-Positive Maine.) 

Despite anti-ageism guide to language tip, “do not use ‘elderly’ as a reference to a group,” transcript showed use of “elderly” in reference to a group almost interchangeable with “older adults” in same sentence:

·       Dr. Orgain said she “began care for older adults prior to becoming a physician, so I had some experience there that fostered my love for the care of the elderly.”

·       Judy Graham asked Dr. Orgain about “the lack of resources and what that says about how we approach our elderly population and what it means for those older adults.”

Maine’s Anti-Ageism Pledge includes “call attention to ageist language,” which depends foremost on what “the person wants to be described” as an equity consideration, and otherwise “refer to people over 60 as older people instead of seniors or the elderly.”

[Similarly, University of Iowa researchers Clarissa A. Shaw, PhD and Jean K. Gordon, PhD, advocate for an individualized, person-centered approach to communication accommodation based on person’s preferences and needs, not stereotypes of aging; for example, not all older adults find “elderspeak” (which arises when caregivers take on parental role) to be patronizing, particularly when it facilitates comprehension (e.g., slow speech, simplified sentence, long pause, loud voice, repetition, etc.). Otherwise, elderspeak is harmful!] 

Judy Graham summarized efforts to address ageism in healthcare: remove old age as a cause and symptom of disease; identify ageist beliefs and language (Frameworks Institute); tackle ageism at grassroots level (Changing the Narrative); require geriatrics education for medical students; include older adults in clinical trials; bring in geriatrics expertise; build age-friendly health system. 

Joined screening of 16-minute video premiere of Changing the Narrative’s Antidotes for Ageism: A Brief Guide to Creating Inclusive Care in an Ageist Society, followed by discussion with talking heads from video. Take-aways:

·       Our age does not define us (so stop attributing everything to “growing older”); instead, age-inclusive healthcare starts with caring for people as individuals because “every person is living a unique human experience.” 

·       “If you are receiving care: Talk to your provider. Ask questions. Your goals shape the course of your healthcare. Clarify what you value to avoid under- or over-treatment. Advocate beyond conversations with healthcare providers.  Seek care providers that truly listen to you, and support your vision for your health.” (Can this be done in typical 15- to 20-minute visit?!)

·       “If you are a healthcare professional: Active listening and letting patients guide care.” 

Geriatrician Jeff Wallace, MD, advised: “Get to know the patient, whether they’re age 20 or age 80, and get the background, and that’s the fun part in many ways, to learn about your patient to start…the therapeutic relationship with a patient starts with respect. You have to respect them, and they have to respect you…doctors should be interrupted more often…it’s okay to say, ‘let’s just timeout, and I really want you to focus on this.’”

Consultant Carolyn Love said she understood that doctors and nurses are medical experts, but patients are experts of their own body so providers need to listen.

Gilliane Lee, recent graduate of occupational therapy (OT), talked about shift to focus on safety as well as quality of life for older adults, and responded to following Q&A:

Q: What are some things that can be done to encourage more people to work with older adults?

A: “Bring them to assisted living facilities (ALF) and getting that exposure so that they can understand that there is such a need for providing care.”

Oy vey, will exposure to ALF for understanding “need for providing care” translate to encouraging more people to work with older adults? Possible to deter people from working in ALF setting like Brookdale, the nation’s largest senior living provider and target of federal lawsuit on behalf of 83 families alleging elder neglect and financial abuse, as well as lawsuit by California Attorney General?! As a graduate gerontology student, I watched Life and Death in Assisted Living (2013), PBS Frontline documentary that featured my instructor Pat McGinnis, founder and Executive Director of California Advocates for Nursing Home Reform; that horror show convinced me to stay away from for-profit ALF!  

“Too many assisted living centers, care centers, and nursing homes are places I would never allow a loved one to enter. Most wouldn’t either if they knew what the facilities were really like. However, families who schedule facility tours and interviews when considering placing a parent or grandparent, do not see that side…Families must learn to get behind the scenes in order to see the truth.” --Linda L. Schlenker, OTR, author of Aging in America: A Wake-Up Call and Call to Action for Seniors and Those Who Love and Serve Them (2008), calling out non-profit Mayo Clinic and St. Anne’s Home, Little Sisters of the Poor (SF) as exceptional

Been there, done that with my own stint working in ALF (non-profit, of course)! People who get behind the scenes by working in ALF see truth of “need for providing care”: understaffing, lack of staff trained in gerontology and experienced in working with older adults, low morale, high turnover, etc. Residents who wait too long for assistance end up trying to manage on their own, resulting in falls, bedsores, medication errors, other neglect.

Exposure to older adults segregated in ALF seems to reinforce warehousing people based on old age/disability. More encouraging to meet older people where they are in a variety of settings, listen and let their complexity grow on you until you decide this could be an interesting way to earn a living 😉!

Ageism in media

Ageism isn’t even recognized in Pew Research’s list of 15 biggest problems facing the nation; in contrast, racism and sexism make the list. 

November 2021 issue of The Journal of Gerontology: Social Sciences featured several articles about media coverage of aging and ageism.

In Aging Narratives Over 210 Years (1810-2019), Reuben Ng, PhD, found aging narratives in newspapers, magazines and nonfiction books have become more “negative” over 210 years, from “uplifting narratives of heroism and kinship” in the 1800s to “darker tones of illness, death, and burden” in the 1900s as older adults came to be viewed as dominant occupants of almshouses and described as deserted by their children and too infirm to work. Contributing to this ageism were the diminishing status of older adults, loss of warmth, loss of competence, social ostracism, and medicalization of aging. Defying this trend was fiction, which provided “positive” portrayals of older adults through romantic courtship and war heroism.

In Ageism in COVID-Related Newspaper Coverage: The First Month of the Pandemic, researchers analyzed 287 articles concerning older adults and COVID-19, published between March 11 and April 10, 2020, in four major U.S. newspapers (USA Today, The NY Times, LA Times, The WaPo), the term “ageism” appeared only five times and only in The NY Times opinion pieces, suggesting that journalists were not calling out ageism. 

This failure to call out or name ageism seems to normalize ageism so it’s not viewed as the problem it is with harmful impacts. 

Journalists continue to confuse assisted living and nursing home, needing to issue corrections like “This story has been corrected to refer to Brookdale as an assisted living and memory care center instead of a nursing home.”  In “The Forgotten Nursing Home Tragedy” (NY Times, Nov. 4, 2021), journalist stated “Nurses were routinely working at several elder-care facilities at once”—more likely the reality is lower-paid certified nursing assistants (CNA) who have closer hands-on contact with residents (assisting with toileting, bathing, dressing, feeding, etc.) work at multiple nursing homes? Important to understand differences: ALF v. SNF, CNA v. nurse.

Wish more journalists would follow reporter Laura Wenus’ advice to consult someone with expertise in the field because “elder care and nursing care is a complex industry” so it helps to turn to a second pair of eyes to ensure “using the right terms and describing the relevant systems correctly.” 

SF Dept. of Disability & Aging Services (DAS) hosted SF Dignity Fund Community Needs Forum (“What do older adults & adults with disabilities living in San Francisco need?). This took place on day after holiday weekend, 39 showed up on Zoom, mostly DAS staff; service providers who participated talked about workforce challenges like finding social workers who are Cantonese bilingual and who are familiar with African American culture. 

I completed 36-item SF Dignity Fund Community Needs Assessment survey, commenting on need for gerontology training in workforce development to better serve diverse older adults, like designing a more age-friendly survey! Wonder how many older adults/people with disabilities had stamina to actually answer all survey items: e.g., 5-item Likert scales for #6 Please rate your agreement with the following (19) statements about your needs; #17 Please rate your agreement with the following (15) statements about any barriers you have experienced when trying to participate in services. By the time I got to survey's demographic information section, I just wanted to get over ordeal so quickly selected "Decline to answer"!